Wednesday, November 16, 2005

If A Man Wants U

****Credit goes to Chris, a friend of mine, I found this on his page.****

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meantto be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find whatmakes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man wasnot treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like heis stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad atyourself a year later for staying when things are not better.The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of differentwomen. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speakup. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... evenif he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into aquasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man.If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.All men are NOT dogs. (Amen to that!!)You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a twoway street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cuteabout baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a newrelationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someonecomplimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if hedoesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,and you're always readily available to him ... he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.Hallelujah, thank you Jesus! Don't fully commit to a man whodoesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.Share this with other ladies ... You'll make someone smile, anotherrethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes aminute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day tolove them and an entire lifetime to forget them...